Simple Pleasures in Life

Drinking tea on a rainy day on the stairs outside the home with a friend, talking sweet non sense...!! watching the clouds move on their silent sojourn,and smiling at the trembling leaves laden with the rain drops...!!

Go on a long walk with a friend or sit by a lakeside and chit chat...

Play with a puppy like a small kid , oblivious of who is watching...!

When a friend lets u know of a good news and you are the first one to share it with them...

Eating good home food in a foreign country.....

Listen to a favorite song being played somewhere else when you just thought of it...!

Look into your friend's eyes and they understand what you feel...

Just sit beside a very dear friend and remain silent and not having to give any explanations to your mistakes and they take it fine....

Just hug your mom, however old you may be and feel content and relieved of all the tensions in the world...

Have siblings with whom you can fight in your childhood and when you grow up, discuss the world with them and they are there for you forever...

Have friends who miss you when you are not there and wait to see you when you are coming to see you after you have been away

Have some friends with whom you may not talk everyday , but u know they are there for u...

Find a old school friend in some social website and talk to them after say 10 years to catch up on each other's lives..!!

A smile when your friend is slightly possessive on you...

A smile when your friend takes liberty to do something you like , even if you have not asked for it...

A smile when somebody gets you something , jus because they thought you would love it...

Sitting on the side lower seat of the Indian trains and keep watching the trees rushing past you in a frenzied blurry...

A hug a friend gives when you really want it, making you feel good...

An embrassing moment that your friend remembers and teases you...

the list goes on...

and probably I will add more...

Inflated Egos

EGO....!! The three letter word that is responsible for most of the problems in the world , in relations, in businesses, at work... let me put in one word..." The entire world"...!

Everyone has an ego.. it also keeps the world running.. But some of them have inflated egos... giving rise to many GRE words, Egoistic, egotistic, egocentric etc....

What makes people think they are very great than many others that they dont hesistate to show others down whenever they get a chance? Is it what is called " the illusion of grandeur"  which is a psychological disorder..

Success always gives pride and in most, it goes to the head, wanting them to consider themselves as demi-gods.. Pride and Ego in successful people, when tolerable is  pardonable.. but what of those millions of people who do not have anything of boast about, except an over sized head to consider themselves great????

What makes me go on this tirade ? Jus a few experiences with a lot of egoistic people in the past 15 months... People who think whatever they say is right... People who want always their way done.. people who have only the intelligence of a tea bag , but think themselves as the rulers of the world...!

Tagged by Crazzyyy Kitty...!!

RULE #1
People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

RULE #2
Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people.

I dont know if I can tag any more cos I dont know many who write blogs... 

But for Kitty' sake and having tagged ( Since I cant refuse), here goes my answers...!!

If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?

The person does not deserve my love.. If he did, he would never betray me.. So I will let go without any regrets forever...[ probably I would also feel happy that I can now look for a new one :-) ]

If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?

I would not want any of my dreams to come true, cos all of them are bizzare, like flying sitting on top of an aeroplane... 

What would do with a billion dollars?

Whose giving it? Please let me know.. cos my list is too biggggg....!

Will you fall in love with your best friend?

I am straight. I cant risk falling in love with my best friend.. Anyways she is happily married.. No chance at all...!

Which is more blessed: loving someone or being loved by someone?

Hmmmm...... an eternally confusing question like " Which came first , the egg or the chicken?" 

I used to say " to love " is greater cos it is unselfish and blah blah blah idealistic thoughts... 

But now I would say nuetral.. To love or be loved , U r blessed if u have known love .. That would be my say...

How long do you intend to wait for someone you love?

Wait ... I actually do not like to wait... And when u love someone,u already know they are yours and you are theirs... then the question of wait does not arise..

If the person you secretly like is attached, what will you do?

I do not believe in one way affections.. It has to be mutual.. So I would let go... Hurting it may be... ! On a funny note, I would do all crazy things to draw their attention to me...! 

If you could root for one social cause, what would it be?

I would not want to stick to one cause.. So I prefer not to answer..!

Where do you see yourself in 10 years time?

An eternally inane question! In this unpredictable life, seeing us somewhere else in 10 years of time, rather tough...! Answering it dreamily or caught in the illusions of the world, I would say " As a head of a multinational Biotech company , trying to balance family and work, satisfied with my success, thirsting for more achievements...! " 

What’s your fear?

Seriously speaking, my answer would be " Ending up as a nobody " 

What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?

Somebody who dint dare to ask my opinion of them directly , setting me on a answering spree and expecting me to appreciate them... Hey kitty... jus kidding...!!!

I think the person is one of the sweetest people I have ever met... with an excellent English vocabulary, a very caring heart and lots of time on hand [:-)] and great fun to be with...

Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?

I want a third option " Married and Rich"  or else I am not answering...!! ( Sulking!!!) 

If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who will you pick?

Cannot I have both????? 

Would you give all in a relationship?

I may if the other deserves it...!! Actually, I will....!!

Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing she/he has done?

I do.. thats what makes me different from everyone... I can forgive n forget if that  some one is a  very much loved one." We pardon to the extent we love" And it also depends on the degree of how much horrible it is.. I cant pardon someone who has derived sadistic pleasure by hurting someone immeasurably.. I cant forgive a terrorist. So it depends... I can forgive Egoistic clashes n silly misunderstandings... If we dont give in, for wat esle r relationships for???

Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?

Being in a realtionship if it is not stifling. But being single if the relationship is too demanding or hurting. Relationships rock if they are built on an understanding. 

hmmmmmm..........At last I am done... 

Now the process of tagging and being rebuked for tagging them follows...

Pardon me folks for continuing this chain...

It was fun.. I really want to see ur answers.. Please be funny and humorous...Please please

Please...!!

I tag

Swetha 

Sundari

Annie

Suba

Smitha 

Anitha

 out of which I am sure no one would answer...!!! Hehehehehehehe...!!!! 

My Love for you never dies.....!!!!

Nature..!! My love for you never dies....!!



I am Nature's girl....I always found it different that I see beauty in everything...

I appreciate the grass flowers, the tridax inflorescence, the squirrels, even the crows....



I like the house sparrows that hop about , unmindful of its play, putting an amusing smile on my lips when a boring lecture is going on... A bird need nt be a peacock to look beautiful for me...!!



The lively squirrels that keep on jumping from one branch to another, gnawing at nuts , drawing furtive glances to bounce away from a child's watchful eye...!!



Its nt only the animals that delight me.. But also the five elements of nature



I love watching the deep blue sky, the eternity of its existence and the unfathomable depth or the illusion of a roof where none exists...... You keep looking and it draws you in....!

The sunrise , the sunset, the dance of the sun gracefully on the sky, casting myriad, shadows of colours that entice...!! The moon and its lonely sojourn, the stars and their brilliance... The sky is an artist's first inspiration... There can be no artist who has ever not tried to capture the sky's marvel.



If the sky is a treat for the eyes, the other four elements are a treat for the senses... Like the wind that takes a newer feel in every season... the nostalgic heavy winds in summer, the lively fresh winds in the spring that add a spring to each step , the chilly harsh ones in the winter...!!!

Nothing can ever be soothing than the morning breeze that starts the day with a never before fresh and peaceful feel.... A dull sore head day jus needs the kiss of the breeze to forget everything and move on...!!



The waters...........if u have ever wanted to experience peace , then the river is the only place where u can feel it.. sit in the waters and close ur eyes and listen to the sounds of nature.. the beautiful gurgling noise...and the reassuring silence.... We can feel one with the world... the waterfalls... the beauty and the power within the falling waters....!!

The earth I need not speak about, the ever patient, vibrant earth.... the hues of brown, red and black that holds every life, creepy, crawly, lively, cheery, the trees, the flowers and everything...!!!

Fire, the ever fascinating one..... The warmth when moderate but the terrible in its full frenzy.. the brillaint bright orange red fires that resemble a passion, a desire... the power and the mighty....!!

Nature... I can keep talking about and lose myself in.... Never ever want to return to any concrete jungle( cliche') ..!!

Love..... But dont overdo...!!!

When we wish someone lots and lots of love, do we actually mean it???

No.. nobody really expects too much of Love cos it stifles...!!
Too much of affection where u actually fawn over someone, wish to be the reason for their every happiness, be the only shoulder in their sorrow, does nt actually provide solace but worries them more.. Cos when u love, they think u are prone to being affected sentimentally more and be hurt... They dont want u to be hurt because u love them too much...!

You do something for the person you love,but you make it a habit, allow yourself to be taken granted for, because you love it... You like to see the gleam of happiness when something is done and you overdo it for that sake.. But you may end up feeling sad thinking that they dont reciprocate it when actually you dont expect the reciprocation... You are happy being the very loving fool...!!

You go through many myriad thoughts...!! You jus get confused why when you love so much and would want to live for them alone, why does it hurt them???

Then slowly realisation dawns, that anything in moderation is fine.. !! Sugary sweet hurts except in movies..!! ( and in gulab jamuns :-)

Love me as a child,
Love me like a child,
unconditionally...!!

But unconditional Love... is not necessary.. do something when someone needs it .. not jus because they like it...! Help or advise when asked, not because you love..!!

Love unrestricted... !!! But dont restrict yourselves..
Love without expecting someone to change !! and dont change yourselves!!
Love without expectation!! and dont expect to much from yourself too..!!!
Love with acceptance!! Accept yourself too!!

Express and give..!! But what happens with this stifling love is that, the person loved has to do some things against themselves, cos u love them too much and they dont want you hurt.....( which actually u dont, because u love them too much)

So.. the final outcome of this immoderate love is that it hurts,you, the person u love and those who love you..

Ayyoooo..!!! I feel like the director of a mushy romantic movie where the hero, heroine , heroine's lover( the ever sacrifical Bakra!!( goat for non-Indian folks) ) who keep on weeping on emotions like there is nothing else to be done in this world..!!!

Hmmmm.....!!! I had enough of this long discussion on love and I believe u had enough too...!!! ( and my friends too who had enough of my stupidly sentimental over expressive anbu thollai...!!)

So we will have more interesting topics to talk in the coming days because I am returning back to my senses..!!!

Relations, Affections, Emotions...!!!!

I always wonder what is the most basic necessity for a person to live, if he already has food, shelter and money......??? The answer would obviously be care and love....!! Whatever a person has achieved,where ever he is, whatever luxury he enjoys, I believe everyone looks for someone to share their feelings with, someone who would care for them and love them....



That is why loneliness kills.... It slowly kills the liveliness in u, it starts to make u very emotional and sensitive , trying to hold on to every little care in the world....But this post is nt about loneliness.. Its abt the affections and relations, the emotions and expressions....



I have read somewhere there are three types of affections or love... The one in which "I " is important...these people love , but their love is satisfying themselves... They are more important for them than the relationship...!! They would love nevertheless, but their love would slowly wipe out the other person...!! Probably u can call it a morbid love, attached and not very understanding....expecting ..!!

The Second type are the people who respect " Love " than themselves or the other person in the relationship.. For them the relation is of the utmost importance that they strive to keep it alive, whatever happens... and they need to be in love always to be happy ...

The third type is the filmi idealistic love where the happiness of "You" matters than their own happiness.. They would sacrifice themselves for the person they love... They would want to be the reason behind every joy the other person feels.... !! There are few living examples of this cos this Love kills.... !! Jus kidding.. these people dont expect anything from the person they love...!!

But to love or not to love is the biggest question of all.. and can u love without expecting? Hmmm.... the answer would be difficult..... Where love is , there is expectation ...!!
But if u love with some expectation, Can we still call it Love???

Love is the greatest paradox.. It is the most confusing emotion on earth....!!

A Walk Alone !!!!!

Have you ever walked alone on a summer day when the winds blow with all their force?? These windy days, the trees bowing to its might, the isolated streets , the bright sun shining above and a silence all around...!! It creates many mixed feelings like when u feel when u are in Love....

First is a peaceful feel, as if I was one with the world, a reassuring feel, the silence is reassuring.. As I slowly begin to smile to myself with this peace in ur heart, a heaviness grows, I slowly realise the mightiness of nature and how little I am and how nondescript I am. What I am in this enormous world,nothing but a speck of dust , insignificant and small.

It also brings with it an emptiness, the loneliness of living.. Whatever emotions that come along, whatever relationships that seem to be very close are nothing but an illusion. It brings to fact the harsh reality of life that we are alone, lonely travellers..... We seem to know everything but cant help being troubled by attachments ..... The truth of life that we actually live alone....

As the winds rush past, it awakens the need for someone very close, someone who lives for us alone, though it is an impractical desire. It brings happiness, pain and peace at the same time.... It also raises the void in life.......!!

Do u all feel the same way as I do? ????